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Well I like the sound of it
by EvilWillow
I'll be back to my usual evil self.
is that a good thing?
Posted: 11:49 Jun 26 2002
Rejection...
**Why is it so hard to handle?
**How do/would you deal with it if someone you truely loved(and said they felt the same) turned around and said they couldn't be with you? ever?
**How did/would you try to go on with your life despite it eating away at your soul?
**How are you doing now? better or worse?
**Does time really heal or will it always be there at the back of your mind telling you your worthless?
depressed much? maybe...
anybody got any personal stories to share?
**How do/would you deal with it if someone you truely loved(and said they felt the same) turned around and said they couldn't be with you? ever?
**How did/would you try to go on with your life despite it eating away at your soul?
**How are you doing now? better or worse?
**Does time really heal or will it always be there at the back of your mind telling you your worthless?
depressed much? maybe...
anybody got any personal stories to share?
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Posted: 11:49 Jun 26 2002 
Hey hon. It took me some time to reply, although I had seen your thread before. I just really needed to think about it. I'm glad that you seem to be better now but I'll post my 10 cents anyways *evilgrin*
As you (and probably 90 % of the worlds population) i had to deal with a lot of rejection through my life, but as you are talking about rejection in a relationship, I'll only post about my experience in that field.
It' s about 1 1/2 years ago when my boyfriend at that time left me without having given me any signs before.
He just entered my room (on valentines day! Funny.. does that remind you of anything that has happened in a very popular vampire-series?!
) to tell me that he couldn't be with me anymore. He could just as well have slapped me with a brick. I just absolutely didnt expect it, I really loved him at that time and it just felt like "No way am i going to make life without you". Being with him was like breathing for me at that time... absolutely neccessary.
And , like in your case he told me that he still loved me and actually wanted to be with me ( huh???!!)
He was really sad and tried to comfort me. He said he was " unable to be in a relationship" and told me that he had split up with his former ex-girlfriends for the same reason. He just "felt he misses something" cause he was still so young and we had already been together for over a year.
Why is it so hard to handle?This kind of rejection? Cause you dont expect it. The big question is: Why the ****** hell does he leave me when he says in the same sentence that he truly loves me?
He is the man you *chose* to be with. You wanted to share your life with him. Now that he leaves you, without being rude or anything, but staying so loveable, you can't even hate him. Your longing simply multiplies.
You're questioning yourself and find a lot of mistakes " If I had done this" "If I hadnt been like that to him" At least that' s what it was like for me..
How did i deal with it? Oh, i worked a plan out how to get him back!lol
I actually did.. I knew where he worked and what he usually did when, so i met him "by chance" downtown (wearing the new top with the low neck, and my new tight trousers of course), and talked to him on the phone, as he' d offered to "stay friends".
I also talked to my friends a lot, I remember that i went online the evening after he had split up, i was crying all through the time while i was chatting.
It did help a lot. In such situations, you just have to focus on the people that really enjoy being with you, like family and friends. I really needed a self-esteem boost and talking helped.
May i just say, that my "get back the ex" plan *did* work, but please, dont try it. we split up a bit later for real anyways and it just got really bad and annoying and hurtful.
It just wasn't the same anymore.
For me i can say that time *did* heal. I dont cry a tear after him and dont wish me back. There' s no use in doing so. Just think that it' s *his* loss ( and it surely is in your case!!). The first weeks, it' s hard to accept, but there'll be other guys...and you'll love them just as you loved him.It may take a while till you find this person ( I havent had a relationship after that guy), but in the meantime, just enjoy your time with your friends and family. Talk about it, don't get into a shell and the pain will ease.
That' s my 10 cents..
(Edited by sara-angel 26/06/2002 14:18)
As you (and probably 90 % of the worlds population) i had to deal with a lot of rejection through my life, but as you are talking about rejection in a relationship, I'll only post about my experience in that field.
It' s about 1 1/2 years ago when my boyfriend at that time left me without having given me any signs before.
He just entered my room (on valentines day! Funny.. does that remind you of anything that has happened in a very popular vampire-series?!
) to tell me that he couldn't be with me anymore. He could just as well have slapped me with a brick. I just absolutely didnt expect it, I really loved him at that time and it just felt like "No way am i going to make life without you". Being with him was like breathing for me at that time... absolutely neccessary.And , like in your case he told me that he still loved me and actually wanted to be with me ( huh???!!)
He was really sad and tried to comfort me. He said he was " unable to be in a relationship" and told me that he had split up with his former ex-girlfriends for the same reason. He just "felt he misses something" cause he was still so young and we had already been together for over a year.
Why is it so hard to handle?This kind of rejection? Cause you dont expect it. The big question is: Why the ****** hell does he leave me when he says in the same sentence that he truly loves me?
He is the man you *chose* to be with. You wanted to share your life with him. Now that he leaves you, without being rude or anything, but staying so loveable, you can't even hate him. Your longing simply multiplies.
You're questioning yourself and find a lot of mistakes " If I had done this" "If I hadnt been like that to him" At least that' s what it was like for me..
How did i deal with it? Oh, i worked a plan out how to get him back!lol
I actually did.. I knew where he worked and what he usually did when, so i met him "by chance" downtown (wearing the new top with the low neck, and my new tight trousers of course), and talked to him on the phone, as he' d offered to "stay friends".
I also talked to my friends a lot, I remember that i went online the evening after he had split up, i was crying all through the time while i was chatting.
It did help a lot. In such situations, you just have to focus on the people that really enjoy being with you, like family and friends. I really needed a self-esteem boost and talking helped.
May i just say, that my "get back the ex" plan *did* work, but please, dont try it. we split up a bit later for real anyways and it just got really bad and annoying and hurtful.
It just wasn't the same anymore.
For me i can say that time *did* heal. I dont cry a tear after him and dont wish me back. There' s no use in doing so. Just think that it' s *his* loss ( and it surely is in your case!!). The first weeks, it' s hard to accept, but there'll be other guys...and you'll love them just as you loved him.It may take a while till you find this person ( I havent had a relationship after that guy), but in the meantime, just enjoy your time with your friends and family. Talk about it, don't get into a shell and the pain will ease.
That' s my 10 cents..
(Edited by sara-angel 26/06/2002 14:18)
Posted: 14:13 Jun 26 2002 [ 1 2 ]