There are some nice men out there it's just that you confuse people - we go through school and college getting told we have to be all 'manly' and masculine to get a girl we like to go out with us and then along comes life and hey, what do you know but actually women want sensitive men, except when they want manly, masculine 'nasty words'.

I gave up trying to impress anyone a long time ago and realised you're better of just being up front about yourself, if only more people did this then a lot less good peole would get hurt.

Sorry to hear this hun I'm sure there's someone much nicer out there waiting for you!

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by Havoc
There are some nice men out there it's just that you confuse people - we go through school and college getting told we have to be all 'manly' and masculine to get a girl we like to go out with us and then along comes life and hey, what do you know but actually women want sensitive men

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This is where I could get on my high horse about the social construction of gender - it's very true, boys are led to believe that they have to be tough and not to see girls as anything but sex objects - but any that are worthwhile grow out of it eventually!

Sweetheart - allow me to add the vote of the "feeling thoroughly stupid" here.
Many people who post here know what happened to me recently and all I can say is that eventually the time comes when you start actually believing people when they say it will be ok.
At least you found out. It could have been a whole lot worse. Sadly there are people in the world who never see past their own interests - this doesn't just apply to men, although they often seem the worst offenders.
Try not to take someone else's dysfunction as a judgement on you. People who cheat and use others are often well practised and convincing liars, and being taken in by one, although you might feel like a sucker, isn't your fault.

So to summarise - he's a ... I can't say what he is - family board ... but at least you'll know the signs for next time.

~Kate
*not even slightly bitter - I don't know what you mean*

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by Kate
*not even slightly bitter - I don't know what you mean*

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hehe Being bitter can be a good thing! It helps with the revenge

Thanks everyone Im going out tomorrow night and he's going to be there with his girlfriend! grrr suppose i have to see him sometime though!

Just to twist the knife a bit further he told my best mate (who is also a mate of his) that it might have been her, it would have been anyone and i was just there....niiiiice!!! so I've gone from feeling daft to being extremely angry...he will pay...

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by Eve
Thanks everyone Im going out tomorrow night and he's going to be there with his girlfriend! grrr suppose i have to see him sometime though!

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Just remember, sometimes a pint of blackcurrant and soda is your best friend :evil grin:

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by White Hart
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Just remember, sometimes a pint of blackcurrant and soda is your best friend :evil grin:

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Mwahahahaha

Im so sorry Eve *big huggles*

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by Havoc
There are some nice men out there it's just that you confuse people - we go through school and college getting told we have to be all 'manly' and masculine to get a girl we like to go out with us and then along comes life and hey, what do you know but actually women want sensitive men, except when they want manly, masculine 'nasty words'.

I gave up trying to impress anyone a long time ago and realised you're better of just being up front about yourself, if only more people did this then a lot less good peole would get hurt.

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How true. I've found whenever I try to impress someone, I just look like an idiot... (/me has flashback, cringes) But then again, I am just a big idiot, so it doesn't really matter the, does it?

Eve, a few words of advice concerning revenge, (this is one sick piece of advice) think of these words: John Wayne Bobbit. But don't tell anyone it was my idea!

(Edited by Alan 06/11/2002 13:53)

Oooooh even I`m not THAT evil lol!!

For the record, from someone who's tried .. both flavours .. both men and women have a huge capacity to cause needless pain and to generally <edit> you over. It's not a sole male ability.

However, once in a while you get lucky. It may not last, for whatever reason, but there are some (but maybe not many) decent people out there.

Best thing you can do is dust yourself off, party away the bad memories, and start again. As someone far more poetic than I can ever be once said, it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

Sounds like the guy was an ijit, and he's the one who's lost out, not you.

(Edited by Jayjay 11/11/2002 21:34)

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by Jayjay
As someone far more poetic than I can ever be once said, it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

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I think you'll find the phrase to be "It is better to have loved and lost, than to listen to an album by Olivia Newton-John".

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by PictureOfFlowers
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I think you'll find the phrase to be "It is better to have loved and lost, than to listen to an album by Olivia Newton-John".

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I thought it was "It is better to have loved and lost, than to listen to an album by Steps"

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by Milky
I thought it was "It is better to have loved and lost, than to listen to an album by Steps"

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and thrice